Ok...help me here..you are complaining about something you were not entitiled to in the firstplace? As we all have witnessed, when the door shuts it becomes the flight crews world..Really all the company is worried about is that all the procedures put in place for Safety have happened...Believe me, the only time the FA's show people that policy about not upgrading is when they dont want to upgrade YOU. Now dont get me wrong, I believe the GA should do her job and follow the upgrade list before boarding and have seen them come on to the plane and pull elites up front..but..once the door closes..all bets are off.. I think this is something that is never going to change and we will just have to deal with it