Originally Posted by GadgetFreak
I wonder if a few days at a ryokan in Kyoto and a few days at someplace like the Westin
A very good suggestion.
If you want the Japanese style room - but with a more "hands off" level of service, then you can get a very nice Japanese-style room at the Westin Miyako in Kyoto. The hotel has a separate section with a Japanese garden and several Japanese rooms around it. That section of the hotel is called the "Kasuien"
IIRC, Pickles has previously recommended the "Kasuien" as a comfortable compromise which provides Japanese style but without the excessive pampering of a Ryokan.