There seems to be a general lack of knowledge about international adoption. It is a legal process. You must complete the US laws and then you must complete the foreign country laws. You do go to court in the foreign country. There is a period of time that you must have contact with the child before the adoption takes place, that is the law. This period of time varies with the region. Some regions require more than one court date. You get a court date, go to the country and start the process. You go back home. You get another court date, you go back again. It takes between 6 months and 2 years to do an adoption. On the US side, you get investigated by the FBI, INS (takes 8 - 10 weeks), local police, DMV, and a social worker. It is not an easy process. It is an expensive process. No one puts themselves through this and then rejects a child for trivial reasons.
Matt