Join Date: Jan 2002
Location: Here, There and Everywhere (but now on the Pacific)!
Programs: AC E75, MPC G and NEXUS/GE fan, Fairmont Plat, SPG Gold, National EE, Amex Plat
Posts: 724
Split your records!!!
If you go through the regular EUA process, you'll have a better shot at getting 1 or 2 upgrades, than together.
The EUA process will upgrade you at the lowest elite level in the reservation, so in your case, at the Silver window.
If I was you, i'd split my records, and then get my gold upgrade 3 days out. If her silver upgrade comes through, great. Otherwise, you can give the FC seat to her, and you can hope for an airport upgrade on her PNR.