Sitting in the secondary EWR P-club at this moment, I can say that I've never experienced the so-called EWR attitude. I connect here often and terminate/return from here about 4 times a year. There are no bad experiences in memory. I admit I'm not hard to please but I am sensitive to abusive attitude; something that has yet to occur in EWR.
Gotta run, 3A to SNA awaits.