A search for keywords like "waitlist" and "upgrade" might reveal a lot of interesting information?

If ticketed through a travel agent that uses Galileo Viewtrip, then you can see the details of the waitlisted upgrade on viewtrip.com.

Example:
Flight 882 Non-stop
Status: Waitlisted (PA)
Class of Service: Connoisseur (NC)

Or you can just ask your travel agent to inquire on your behalf. Mine seems able to get my details (PA waitlist, number of passengers ticketed, total number on the PA waitlist and my current position).

Or you can just have your 1K wife call and verify that you are on the PA waitlist?