Originally Posted by PUCCI GALORE

I will tell you exactly why I dislike it. It is not the form of words - it is so often the attitude with which it is delivered. It expects the answer "Yes" and there are petulant little answers when you refuse. "SHE doesn't want to move". It may be easy to decline but one is made to feel guilty if one does not. In my experience it is married couples who could not care less and I am one of them. He is happy when he has some game or other, or is watching the film, or if he is in a window seat looking out of the window. I watch something on my Ipad as I find most inflight entertainment fit for those who are still graduating to solid food.

In the end, I am in the pointed part of the plane as we paid to be there. We do not play upgrade roulette as we do not have enough seniority at AA (plenty at BA but that is irrelevant) to compete in the bear pit that the boarding lounges degrade into as boarding approaches. Therefore I have made the seat selection long ago. Those who are chosen for upgrade have to take what comes and if that means that a married or unmarried couple are separated, then I am sorry, tough. That mostly happens when I travel alone as my husband is, for the reason that I have explained, next to me. Whether I qualify for the epithet of "Snowflake" is for others to decide. I think that I am more Snow White but then I missed out on the prince so that may not be appropriate.

In the end it is like being asked for credit, a refusal in my experience often offends. I hope that you are not personally offended by my answer to your question, However, after nearly 40 years of marriage (yes, I was a child bride), the only reason that I really enjoy him being there is that I do not have to be polite and courteous and as he has a sweet tooth he and I swap my dessert for his cheese. Admittedly this is a BA meal issue as cheese is not that much served on American and when it is it is totally under-ripe and bland.

Were this not the business like totally non- frivolous AA Forum I could tell you about a couple separated on a flight aboard Air France from CDG to LHR, but this is also a family show so I cannot.