I have had multiple destination fees waived, even as part of corporate rates or as part of award stays - never received (nor expected) any of the free things that come with it. Now, certain hotels where this fee covers say 'beach chair rentals' etc. - they have essentially no means of checking that since basically 99.9% of guests have it ... you get these almost always. Things like 'tickets', 'rentals', 'F&B credit' where there is '1 per day' - they always check that you did not have it already - those you don't get when your rate doesn't have the destination fee.