Thank you for your gracious comments - I felt so stupid for having got so worked up. I've mailed SAS about what happened (and, yes, I am VERY aware of how inconsequential my distress was compared to what has since happened to so many of their passengers in South East Asia) I do hope I get a proper reply.

I think what I really want SAS to do is think hard about the kind of emotional distress that is caused with short turnarounds and recognise that not all nervous pax are nervous about the same things. There didn't seem to be a comment available to put next to my details to explain my own particular anxiety (i.e. missing the plane).