Pretty much how I feel too. I did know about the SQ flipping the seat to lie flat which is what prevented me from flying them for so long. But CX J cost now is just ridiculous for the route I need and SQ surprisingly the most “affordable”.
Now that I’ve flown them a few times, I’ve grown to like them and also figured out a way to sleep comfortable in the weird angle. I do really miss the Pier lounge in HKG though, I used to look forward to transiting there.