Charlie-

I wish you the best of luck. Life is indeed a grand adventure and this certainly will be an interesting, and maybe wonderful experience. I wish you all the best.
Where are you working, or in what field?

I'm not gay, and not a minority, but I think that an "outsider" moving to Honolulu is likely a different experience than being gay or minority in many places in the lower 48. Not better or worse, but different. I suppose the best analogy would be to compare moving to Hawaii to moving to another country, where the culture seems at first blush to be similar, but because it seems similar, it takes a while to figure out the differences, which are large.

And I think you will be struck that it is not the outsiders that have an air of superiority, but rather the opposite.

I know many people who love it there and would never leave- the VAST majority of those people, however, are true Ka'ma'aina (hopefully my spelling is not too off).