Please make sure to file a complaint, preferably one with the airline, TSA AND the federal DOT, about this employee. (It was unclear if the person was airline or TSA who said that.) That was a completely inappropriate thing to say and that person should be terminated.

IMO (s)he (?) should also be flogged in public, wear a scarlet hammer/sickle for life, and be required to tell her children daily that she is a horrible person undeserving of life in a free country, but I rarely seem to get my way when it comes to punishments.

Edit: Oh, and while waiting for the endlessly slow TSA ombudsman process to deny you have a problem or ignore your complaint, try flying with various combinations of your title, first, middle, and last names/initials in varying orders to resolve the problem. It is perfectly legit to show only the initial for everything but your last name and even legit to put your last (family) name as your given name. If someone grumbles about the name vs. the ID, look them in the face and say that's how your culture/family handles names. The rearrangement may fix the no-fly problem.

Also, consider contacting the ACLU--you may even be able to join the lawsuit. (Has it been certified as class action yet?)