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Governator
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I know this is unlikely so second part of question is about letting my wife sit in F. I've done it enough, want her to have my seat (I won't cheat and go visit her or anything). I'm thinking it best to do it on the plane, just show boarding passes to crew and let them know we've swapped. Any issues with that or better way to handle it?
If this has been one of the scenarios in your game plan, you should have booked your ticket in J, and your wife in F. It is now a special request to make the swapped. You can't swap seats privately without first talk to the FA.