I am in the same boat. I am looking to book on the A321 NEO from IAD to LIS. On the site it says that row 11 does recline, but row 12 doesn't, which is interesting because the exit door is located between the two rows. So to me, exit 12 should recline, but not 11, right?! I am leaning towards row 6 but am hoping that the bathrooms aren't there. I can't find photos online and SeatGuru seems conflicting.