Great answers putting this in perspective. I had considere all this but but just wanted comments to calm me down. My wife gets upset when I make whispered comments in flight like "boy that was close" She still tells all her friends about the time I told her "we're going off the runway" when the engines started spitting sparks out the front and making booming noises during a long landing?

Yup,I would like to know what was said on the ATC but I don't want to identify a specific on a public forum when it's so minor in most people's minds. I'll be glad to privately supply the fight number if it would be a learning process