Dear Flyertalk,

This is my first post, I hope that I am posting in the correct forum.

I am trying to refer a relative to the Amex Bonvoy Brilliant card, but when I do, the offer generated for her is 75,000 Marriott Bonvoy bonus points plus $200 back at restaurants.
This is significantly worse than the public offer of 150,000 points plus an 85,000 point FNA. Even more, my bonus as the referrer seems to be just 1,000 points.

Is there some way that I could get the usual 15-20,000 referral points while maintaining the elevated 150k + 85k sign up offer for her?
Or should I forget the referral bonus and just have her sign up directly on the Amex page?
This happened once before when I referred a friend using Amex Gold. In the end I gave up the referral, and she took the higher, public offer.

It seems so confusing / bizarre, and I've never encountered decreased referral bonuses from any other companies.

Thank you for any suggestions, data points, etc.