When you want to chat, I encourage you to keep the chat window open while surfing the web or doing whatever else you'd be doing (as long as your pc will support multiple windows at once) and check back at the window every several mins. Let's look at example:

4:41: FlyerTalker 1 enters, but seeing no one there, leaves

4:43: FlyerTalker 2 enters, but seeing no one there, leaves

4:45: FlyerTalker 3 enters, but seeing no one there, leaves

Let's look at what would happen if every followed above guidance:

4:41:FlyerTalker 1 enters, although seeing now one there, decides to wait a few mins

4:43: FlyerTalker 2 enters and is glad to see FT 1

4:45: FlyerTalker 3 enters and now it is a party!