I really want to fly too. Fortunately, I also realize we are in the midst of a pandemic so despite how much I’d love to go somewhere I will only allow myself to fly for life or death emergencies. Partly because I’m trying to be a good global citizen and partly because I don’t want to deal with all the red tape and potential pitfalls of denied boarding or getting stuck somewhere. You will be denied boarding and even if you were allowed to board you run the risk of getting into trouble in Japan for trying to “game” the system. They will be less understanding of your plight than the audience here.
I know it’s not a popular opinion on FT but I’d advise you to buy some roses and meet your wife at the exit to customs in EWR.