Yes, I think you're right, it's the other way around. I got status first (I've had it since around 2014 so I've lost count exactly of when it gets renewed or not), and my wife followed 3 years or so later.
So in that case, she qualified in 2019 for the two years to end in 2022, now she has had an extension to Feb 2023 based on COVID year. I got status in 2018 which would end at beginning of 2022(active status years 2019 and 2020 + the extension for COVID to Feb 2022 - I actually had already qualified in 2019 for the extension from 2021 for two years based on the 2019 activity, so actually in theory that should cover 2021 and 2022).
So is this actually just a case of the card not being updated as I already qualified in 2019? Or will they not count 2019 towards the extension of status for years 2021 and 2022? Just seems strange that her card was updated to Feb 2023 and she got an email about it, whereas I didn't get anything aside from the generic email saying that the programme changes would not be implemented as planned in 2022.
I seem to remember Oliver2002 on one of these threads making some points about when cards would be updated. So perhaps there is still time for them to update my card based on 2019 activity.