Originally Posted by
SightseeMC
As someone who has traveled under the cloud of an impending breakup there is no "going as friends". There is only "going as people with some serious grudges to be worked out in forced proximity". And doing so in Hawaii adds "at high expense, which neither of you will want to pay, adding to grievances."
Either go solo or don't go at all. But meandering through a formerly-romantic trip with a formerly-romantic partner is only good for your future memoir or screenplay.
Normally I'd agree here. But it sounds like there ended on fairly amicable terms. She wanted a ring, she wasn't getting it at the speed she wanted, and she threw in the towel a few days before the trip. I think that's in really poor form but to each their own. Adults can make decisions and live life the way they think is best.