Alfred,
I believe you may be on the right track with the Amans - if you are looking for intimacy and outstanding personal service, that is. I reviewed the Amans and Four Seasons properties on Bali quite extensively in a previous post. I recommend you take a quick read....
http://www.flyertalk.com/forum/showt...light=amankila
P.S. I apologize if this link doesn't work. I'm a bit of a techno-tard. If it doesn't work, please search for my post entitled "Singpore/Bali Trip Report - Amankila, Four Seasons, Ritz Carlton, Etc."