I've always been an aisle guy for both short hall and long haul, drinking lots of liquids even on 787 is key to healthy flying. I'm not a big guy but many people overflow out, also many people are now so wide some even are FA they need to go sideways to not hit me, LOL.
Let's not get into how much clearance you have for the food cart, or the common sense of the last group boarding with their backpacks and rollers as another poster noted.
All about capacity, they don't design them for your comfort, just safe enough and maximize revenue baby. I don't think many people would sign up for a carrier that put comfort and convenience for their widest passenger and selfish boarder with backup and carry on

then charged ticket prices commensurate with the same revenue / mile
Complaining here won't change one thing, but you all have my sympathy I have seen and felt it all.