Originally Posted by
invisible
It is not 'wounding'. It is respecting adult person's personal freedom and choices.
And it's just super awkward. I invite someone to dinner and then butt in while they're ordering a Coke from the waiter. That's weird. Really weird.
If I'm the invited guest, I'll sometimes look for a cue before ordering alcohol (or just for the price point of the wines being considered), but a soft drink would be a natural go-to if I wasn't sure what others were going to drink.