I am going to go down the middle, I don't think it is that big of a deal when flying J as more recently I have noticed every one getting some sort of greeting so the gold and above greeting does not really mean much. However, I do feel it is a nice touch in Y.

As for meal choice, maybe it should be a perk for status pax to be able to order/receive their food first. I have been on flights where crew have taken my order and skipped the person next to me as they were on an Op up so took their order last.