I just spoke with the people at CrystalTech the outfit that hosts my website and provides my email service.
Of course there are two things going on a once which prevents getting a confirmed resolution. They are changing the email interface they use and so the email system is down for about another hour or two.
However, the tech there had me change my outgoing smtp from < smtp.email.msn.com > (MSN is my ISP to a new portal they opened a few months ago. He said this should do the trick. I'll see in an hour or so. It seems that greylisting might have been the problem.
I am posting this now without confirmation so that no one will waste their time replying for now.
Thanks to ScottC and to businesstraveler
Best wishes,
Teacher49