A popular approach is to adopt the eating schedule of your destination 24 hours before you leave. So eat breakfast around midnight the night before you leave, then wake up at 6am the day you leave for lunch, then eat dinner around 2pm - and nothing until you eat on the plane. They'll serve dinner but it will be "breakfast". Friends of mine
do this and swear by it.
I usually arrive at my destination and take a nap when I check in if I can check in in the morning, then stay up until bedtime in the new local timezone. If I can't check in, I power through with coffee and keeping busy until I can eat some dinner and go to sleep. The next day I'm usually fine.
When I went to India, we left at night, I slept on the plane (in F, so admittedly it was easy). We arrived the next day at night time. I got to the hotel, took an Ambien and a melatonin, and slept til the next morning. No jet lag at all.