Originally Posted by
IAN-UK
Where a poster feels damaged, hurt, victimised and distressed the only sensible advice is to withdraw from the conflict. In withdrawal the victim might like to reflect on why he/she quite uniquely attracted hostility - but that analysis is for another day.
I think another option that is supposed to be the rule here on FT is the "Report Post" button to alert the Mods when one feels that the post was outside the FT TOS. At the end of the day, they are the ones who decide what constitutes violations of FT TOS. I would think that goes for direct messages as well.