honestly snowycali, it seems like your attitude about this whole thing, even including towards the other posters in this thread who've tried to be helpful to you, is one of general crankiness and hostility. I'm sure you're frustrated and angry at guilt by association, but as a friendly tip, it's coming across in everything you write on here, and I agree with others' advice here, that is have someone else write the letter to AA, if you do it, write it FOR YOU. I'm just irritated reading what you're writing even though you may not mean to come across that way. As others said, I'm sure that helped shorten the patience level of whoever was asking you for answers at AA.