Originally Posted by
segacs
It's not hardwired in the female brain. It's built into the way women are socialized and taught by society what is expected of us in terms of behaviour. But that's a whole 'nother topic for a whole other thread.
"you say potato, i say pahtahto, lets call the whole thing off."
But seriously, the mandate/directive that there must be good reason for denying a request, or that the reason behind the denial must trump to the need underlying the initial request is almost exclusively a female position.
This reasoning was demonstrated by your post from two days ago. It was the wife who was questioning your position to deny the seat swap and your need for the extra legroom over that of her husband. I am assuming that the husband did not say much during the conversation. What did the husband have to say? Finally, who led the passive aggressive conversation later in the flight, was it the husband or the wife?
Originally Posted by
NAJetSet
Now, I think that is certainly a different situation. You're not debating whether to explain why you don't want to go (or your wife in this case), you're debating what lie is best to tell so as not to hurt the feelings of your family member.
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I think going forward anyone requesting a seat swap should be met with a stern No, followed by an extremely elaborate lie engineered to baffle the requester so much so that they leave to their assigned seat in sheer befuddlement
As I stated above, the concept that it is better to lie in order to save face rather than potentially hurt the other persons feelings through a potential slight is indicators of a submissive position. The dominant position would be a polite "no" without a need to have an explanation.
Originally Posted by
skybluesea
I will definitely stay away from adding more nonsense on this line of recent posts - where does one come up with suggesting an entire gender has a particular neurological design?
give your head a shake
My theories come from University business commerce courses in Organizational Behavior.
Using the DISC personality profile, there are far more males with dominant as the primary personality indicator than females. Additionally, females with a finding of dominant primary personality type are ashamed of their status label while males see dominant as a sign of leadership potential.
Applying DISC to the seat swap situation, neither are dominant and both are influential, however one is steady while the other is conscientious. It is in the subtle personality difference that is causing the uneasiness for both parties, leading to confrontation.
Using Myers-Briggs Type Indicator yields far more males than females that are classified closer to ENTJ label. There are more females than males with the opposite ISFP label.
In the seat swap post above, Segacs is display signs of ISTJ and coming up against another person who demonstrating ISFP. Neither is to extroverted to utter a simple no, but one is perceiving while the other is judging based upon their perceptions of thinking or feeling.