Well, my partner and I have only been together for five years, so I don't remember a time when I would have been circumspect about this.

We stay mostly in four-star hotels, or gay B&Bs in major European capitals, but even in the random chain hotel after a family wedding (the family wedding I was aprehensive about) in BGM, our method is always the same. He comes in and stands next to me quietly at the counter. He won't say anything, as he doesn't like confrontation, and just rolls his eyes as I patiently but firmly insist that I get the level of service they promised. (Like the two occasions the desk clerk at the AMS Hilton couldn't find our reservation, because they don't like to honor the low price; but, I digress.)

In all cases I treat the bedding choice as a formality, and act like I don't expect it to be questioned. I find if I don't make a big deal of it, they take the cue, but I certainly wouldn't try to hide my partner -- if there's going to be a problem with a hotel, I'd like to know BEFORE I check in.

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