Originally Posted by
MarisaInChicago
Wow, thank you everyone so much for all the information. There are many hotels in Tokyo available, I just don't know which to choose. We are very discerning, don't want crowds, and like the most luxurious.
That might be hard in Tokyo, with such a short notice. Tokyo as a whole is crowded and gets downright claustrophobic in a few places I visited. I do hope that you were able to get JR passes. Those will let you into the reserved cars free of charge and are less crowded than the non-reserved.
I'll echo what AlwaysAisle said, if you want to a true a mom and pop place, you'll have to read/speak Japanese. I've visited these type of places but only through my Japanese friends or local guides. Play it safe this time and ask for recommendations from your concierge.
If you do end up going again to Japan and have more time to plan, I suggest contacting
The Art of Travel. They specialize in bespoke travel and appear to have trips suited to your preferences.