Well, it seems like she is a member all right.
It is a minor issue - there was another meal available yes? - and thus I wouldn't care and certainly wouldn't throw a tantrum over it. It would be unacceptable if it was a SPML order or no food was available at all, but a regular meal choice? It happens.
Sure, it would be nice if the asking a HVC customer for a first preference meal choice happened as a matter of course, but if I had such fussy eating habits I would of course ensure I had my own food provisions/ordered a SPML after reading the menu.