Torch lighters? No way. Not in carry on, not in checked bag. No can go.

Needlepoint needles? Who knows? Sewing kits have routinely been confiscated since September 13, 2001. Mine are found and taken away about half the time.

No mention of needlepoint needles (usually not as sharp as sewing kit needles) is found on the TSA lists:

www.tsa.gov/interweb/assetlibrary/Permitted_Prohibited_11_10_2003.pdf

Here's a suggestion: Have your wife bring them along. Arrive way ahead of time of your flight. Two or more hours ahead. If TSA finds them and prohibits them, place them in the pre-addressed, stamped mailer you bring with you (addressed to your house) and ship them home. Problem solved.