Actually my in my wedding it was about being married in the eyes of God. My marriage took place in a church and the vows I took were not about a union in the eyes of the state. You have replaced religion with government. I did not get married because of state or federal regulations. I got married because of my religious views and my belief in the sanctity of that union.

If it were only about the law, the problem could simply be handled with a legal document. Marriage is about more than the law. So holding to the traditional definition of marriage is not hate - it is about belief - unfortunately you espouse that anyone who does not believe what you believe is guilty of hate. The premise of this country is freedom of religion - not freedom from religion.

The proof of this is from my perspective is that even though I believe that marriage is in the eyes of God - I do not bemoan others the right to view it differently than I do. They do not have to follow my beliefs, they are free to follow their own and I will not oppose it as long as it does not bring harm to me or my family. If a gay couple wants to get married - more power to them - let them do it. Don't require me to celebrate it with them and I will not stand in their way as they are free to make their own choices and follow their own beliefs. The problem is that if I do not celebrate it with them, people such as yourself call me a bigot instead of acknowledging that I too am free to follow my beliefs and live as I believe. You want me to do more than tolerate or accept it - you want me to celebrate it as well and anything short of that is proof of my bigotry in your eyes.