You might also want to consider the Siemens S55.

I have one and I like it a lot; it certainly fulfills your requirements 1, 2, 3, 4, 5 and 7: text messaging interface is OK but not stellar, but I guess that's quite subjective.

It's also got a colour screen, polyphonic tones, has a clip-on camera (with flash) that comes as standard with every bundle I've seen etc. It also has Bluetooth (which you don't care about), IR (which you do) and serial cable connectivity (comes with the cable) and syncs fine with Outlook.

The S55 and the 7210/6610 both have speakerphones; which the T68i doesn't if that factors into 'good handsfree'.