My sincere apologies to the Lurkers as I should not have posted the response that I received. I did not realize it was against policy. Again, I do apologize and did not mean to cross that line at all.

You are totally right this is not the end of the world ......... at all. I guess I just become frustrated with the whole process. I'm not sure if I have been clear but I totally understand that any companions flying with me would not be entitled to any upgrades whatsoever. The weird thing is I have been using Delta since the CROSSOVER program began and as I mentioned have booked reservations with my wife already - to me it was simple and worked perfectly......the reservation was made and then on the reservation in my account it always reference the CROSSOVER REWARDS to my name / skymiles # - We had no problems - we got the free checked baggage; priority boarding and my name was automatically on the upgrade list.
I actually have received upgrades and it is probably because of the legs I fly?? Just assuming.....Nonetheless, no issues and everything worked perfectly.
I am just having a hard time understanding what is being said now? In essence if I am interested in trying to get lucky with the upgrades my wife has to be on a separate reservation ( this is what I am understanding anyway ). In saying that then how on earth would the other benefits come into play for her? I'll stop beating this to death but just makes absolutely no sense all of a sudden.

Again, I want to apologize to the Lurkers for posting the response from Delta. My sincere apologies.