That happens if you over-inflate the number of elites... like what happened with a lot of the airline FFPs.

If you stayed on BOGO award nights and got status purely based on the CC no wonder the properties don't welcome you like a Saudi prince... The rate they get reimbursed from CC is miserable compared to the prices business travelers or even leisure travelers pay in cash.

Even worth if they see in your profile that you have been one of the maximizers...

If you earned your status with a quite substantial amount of stays I have seen a lot of nice gestures from the hotel.

Anyway, even there I have seen a lot of properties which really take care of Elites. Also consider the difference is also based on culture. e.g. here in Scandinavia it is just not common or cultural accepted to treat people different based on some shiny plastic card - everybody is the same and gets the same. (google Jante's law).