Checked this morning, and the confirmed upgrade on a different day was gone. Went to the airport, and explained the situation. A supervisor stepped in, and put me back on the wait list. So they had indeed bungled things and totally dropped me. Went to the gate, and was told I was at the top of the list, but no guarantees as expected. Went back an hour before, and got called in to get the boarding pass next the the mrs. So all turned out well at the end, but really needed the advice. Thanks guys!,
Reza