I took two 14 year old daughters and a 12 year old son to Costa Rica. I highly recommend that you skip the volcano and other popular tourist destinations. Does your so daughter like monkeys? If yes, head to Montezuma for 3-4 days. You will wake to howler monkeys outside your hotel room each morning along with lots of other wildlife. Nice restaurants and lots of excursion choices such as zip lines and snorkel trips to turtle island. The best white water rafting is on the eastern side of the country. An easy day trip where they pick you up in San Jose. Pictures can be found at
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