OK... now for some questions

This one is about bluetooth & my car.
With my previous dinosaur flip phone once I set up the bluetooth connection with my car it would automatically connect when I got into the car and I could make and receive calls. When I was out of range with the car the bluetooth would turn itself off.
I figured it might be the same with the iphone. I was wrong

. The only way I could get it to work is to turn on bluetooth, which apparently sucks the battery dry in no time and go through a bunch of commands.
For example, I can't just say "call - husband" as I could with my old phone. I had to tell it bluetooth - voice - [I got siri] - call - husband. Again, all while this was sucking my battery dry.
Then I had to turn off bluetooth to save the battery. If I don't turn on bluetooth on the phone before I try to make a call it can't connect (of course). That also means if I get a call I can't answer it either
Is this the case or am I doing something wrong? FWIW - I have a Buick LaCrosse (yes, I know, first mistake) with Onstar which has the subscription, but the phone works even without the subscription.