When I stayed at the Aria hotel in Las Vegas, the "panel" controlled not just lights, but drapes and the TV and music as well. When you enter the room for the first time, certain lights turn on, the drapes open, the TV turns on (as I recollect, with a greeting message on the screen) and some other "things" occur...it is sort of fun to play with the controls.
I stayed at the Aria, and hated the lighting / electronics / drape setup.
Technology is great when it is intuitive and helpful. This was neither.
OP - I feel your pain.