Originally Posted by
iwanm
She had a pat down, handbag searched and was swabbed for god knows what.
Yes she's 13 and was confused about what was happening and why which in my view was perfectly understandable, however there was absolutely no empathy from the woman dealing with her. My daughter felt very uncomfortable whilst it was going on in full view of everyone
Anyonoe who goes through this egregious violation of their civil rights will be, at the very least, uncomfortable. However, do not ever let the discomfort turn into embarassment, as though you (or she) had done something wrong; this embarassment can lead to requesting private screening, which radically increases the chances for abuse and deviation from the SOP.
Instead, teach her to turn that discomfort into
outrage at what is, in point of fact, an
outrageous personal violation. Stay calm and never lose your temper, never raise your voice, but never become embarassed. In this situation, your daughter was a victim; she had absolutely no reason to be embarassed and every reason to be angry.
"Full view of everyone" is absolutely vital to prevent further, worse, abuses by these uniformed bullies.