I feel horrible about this.

When going out to restaurants, I normally do not like to ask to have a dish prepared any differently than it normally is. It can make things difficult for a busy chef.

We ate a Buca di Beppo last night. We ordered a veal parmesan and string beans. I went against my better judgement and asked for it to be prepared differently.

A lot of times when ordering a dish parmesan style there is too much sauce which makes the meat soggy. We asked that the veal parmesan have the sauce on the side. One person in our party does not like cheese at all. We also asked that one piece not have any cheese put on it. The string beans are normally sauteed in oil. We asked to have them steamed.

Sure enough, things blew up. The dish was prepared incorrectly twice.

After the waitress told us the first time the dish was not prepared the way we asked, I graciously told her it is not a big deal and we will take it.
We never saw it.

The manager came out and took it off our bill.

We also had to worry whether we had an angry chef that doctored our food.

What is the etiquette at a restaurant with asking that a dish be prepared differently?

We will definitely be going back to give the restaurant our business. There is no way Buca won't be coming out ahead dollar wise by comping the dish.