what ended up happening
The Virgin call centre did say not to worry about seats and that there were no middle seats in PE on that flight.
It turns out, however, that there was a couple of 2-4-2 rows of PE and several people who ended up on those rows had also had the 'random' extra check...
As for the extra security check: the checkin staff knew nothing about it and said that online check in sometimes doesn't work.