Originally Posted by
exbayern
You seem very cavalier and accepting of the practices of your employer. Again, if you cannot see why any of this is wrong, we cannot explain it to you.
I do hope I don't come off as cavalier, because I'm not. I acknowledge that our practices need improved to say the least but I am limited to doing what I have to do. Losing my job does no one any favors.
You are in a position of power and authority, and took someone into a private room and then embraced them. There are a number of things that could be said about it, but it was frankly incredibly foolish on your part. I suggest that you don't do such a thing again if you don't want to put yourself in jeopardy.
I know. You are absolutely right and I was absolutely wrong. If it helps it was a quick one-armed side hug and *not a full embrace, but the fact that I was wrong still remains. I'm usually very good at "watching my p's and q's" but this was a moment of weakness on my part. By this point the screening was over and I need to remember the whole perception of the uniform. Getting into trouble over comforting someone is certainly not on my list of things to do and I do have to remind myself that even though I don't have the "respect my authority" attitude, my uniform alone assigns that authority to me. It's just very hard for me to dampen down my human side sometimes.
You can try and spin it that you are a warm and caring person, but it doesn't change the fact that it was completely inappropriate.
I am a warm and caring person, but that doesn't make it any less inappropriate I'm afraid. That's why I want to know if there's a way I could have made the screening easier on her. I know the after screening hug was bad and I probably shouldn't have mentioned it, but I did because I wanted you all to know I was serious about my query.