I had a similar experience and documented in on FlyerTalk and here:
tsanewsblog.com/?p=76

One important difference is that I refused both the scanner and the patdown. So I hadn't tripped any alarm, so to speak, when I double-opted-out and was allowed to leave the airport. But your story is very troubling to me because every time I walk into an airport I tell myself that if those lowlifes try to touch my body I'm out of there. I would rather walk home than let a stranger molest me. I understand you insisted and your TSO refused your refusal, but this tale is going to leave me with a huge amount of fear of being forcibly fondled. Surely they wouldn't grab you and rub you while you tried to run and push their hands away, would they?