If the lower ponytails don't work, try putting up your hair in a way that spreads the weight out over a larger area, to keep from getting a headache. A
Ficcare Maximas will hold my hair in a French twist throughout a long, hectic day without ever needing adjustment. Similarly, two
Ketylo hairsticks would hold an infinity bun all day and through a dance class that night, even when I had hip-length hair.
I've been thinking about this ever since you posted it so today I tried to order the Ketylo three prong hair thingy. They were all sold out so I ordered one from Etsy and I will let you know how it works out.
Here it is..
Bobette
I got it and it's very nice looking. It's about 5 1/2" long but I'm having a heckuva time getting it to really hold my hair. I looked at all the You tube instructions but I'm either doing it incorrectly or my hair is just too darn thick.