Sure, my mom used this expression whenever I would express problems getting along with a number of people. I would come home and complain that it was all those other people who were being mean, and she would try to teach me ways to change my own behavior in situations where I was having the same problems with multiple, unrelated people. The theme was that it's almost never everyone else who's wrong.

Of course, she didn't literally mean everyone, and I think that trying to attack that wording, which there's no way you could possibly think it referred to every single person on flyertalk, is totally non-productive.

No, why should I? I'm not here to badger anyone, and I'm not here to attack anyone. It's just very odd that Randy would post that you can come back and conduct yourself in exactly the same manner that has upset so many people in the past, and somehow that's entirely the fault of the other people??

Don't get me wrong, people who launch outright attacks on you are wrong and should be punished. Muggers should still go to jail, but people who keep getting mugged have a responsibility to stop going down dark alleys late at night holding a fistful of cash.

So, I wanted to clarify the "peace process" or just protest it if it truly means that you have no responsibility to reduce what your experience absolutely tells you is provactive behavior, even if your logic tells you it isn't.