Which lodge if you travel with kids?

Otahuna and Blanket Bay flatly refuse them before age 13.

Kauri Cliffs, Cape Kidnappers, Huka and Grasmere tolerate them except in the dining room...

City hotels aren't too clear about it on their web sites (Mollies, Spire) - what is clear is that kids aren't the target market...

Wharekauhau, Matakauri, Treetops and Eagles Nest are OK with kids it seems.

Thanks for any other recommendations for luxury travel with kids in NZ...