Originally Posted by
pwb2103
However, that said, I'm certainly taking the overwhelmingly negative feedback from the women on here to heart. If this many women really would be horrified by a surprise like this then its enough to make me spend some more time thinking this through. I'll defend the idea of going through trouble to make it special, but only if I am still convinced it will actually be special.
Take the advice from this group with a certain grain of salt. Each of us is talking about ourself or someone we know very well. Your fiancee may think and react much differently than us. You know her better than any of us.
If it were me or my wife, your idea wouldn't work. Either of us would freak if the other one said, "I'm taking you on a trip but I'm not going to say where or why." If either of us enlisted friends in an elaborate ruse ("Boyfriend's working this week? Ditch him and come to Spain with me!") there'd be too much chance it'd backfire. "I'm tired/No, I think I'll see my parents instead/I really should save money/I'd rather save a special trip like that for when my boyfriend and I can go together/I got sick at the last moment/etc." But again, that's just me and my wife. You know your fiancee best.